Everyone wants to be happy, but many people aren’t. Happiness is so interesting; we know it when we feel it, and we often use the term to describe a range of positive emotions, including joy, pride, contentment, and gratitude.
For me happiness is watching movies on television, drawing sketches with pencil, listening to music, singing songs. There are many things that make you happy in this world.
Every person attributes feelings of happiness by doing different activities which they love to do in their lives. There are fundamental patterns to what makes people happy.
There are a lot of studies going on, Buddhists, Scientists and Psychologists are searching for the exact formula for what makes for a happy human being. You will find happiness experts running happiness courses and classes.
In fact, with the realization about the importance of happiness in mind, the whole world celebrates March 20 as International Day of Happiness.
Do you ever come across people who are always upbeat and no matter what life throws at them, they just seem to roll with the punches?
Even I wish to be one of them. It’s quite possible they know and are following formula for happiness.
So how can you be happier?
There’s good news and bad news.
Unfortunately, 50 per cent of your happiness is determined by personality traits that are largely hereditary.
The good news is that 50 per cent of your level of happiness is totally within your control. Things like your relationships, your health, your career, the things you do are all under your control. You can still take steps to make yourself a lot happier.
I love to be happy, as I am sure most of the people would, so I thought of finding and sharing some ways to become a happier person.
You can increase your own happiness quotient too by doing these 5 things that make you happy:
1. Do What You Love
You might have heard the old saying about the artists, who may be starving yet they are happier. Artists are considerably more satisfied with their work than non-artists even though the pay tends to be considerably lower than in other skilled fields.
Using your strength in an innovative way each day is what makes a person happy and less depressed. You can find ways to do more of what you excel at. When work feels like play, you’re more likely to enjoy other aspects of your life better, too.
Everyone has at least a few things they do incredibly well. Focusing on things that make you happy and finding ways to do those things more often will boost your levels of happiness. You will be a lot happier. And probably a lot more successful.
2. Practice gratitude and thankfulness
We should always practise expressing gratitude and thankfulness to people around us, who have helped you in one or the other way. It will always increase the bonding and satisfaction in the relationships.
This is applied to both the person who is expressing and the person receiving it. This is equally helpful at the workplace too. Express gratitude for an employee’s hard work and you will both feel better about yourselves. This is a very simple strategy, but I’ve personally found it to make a huge difference to my outlook.
Happy people focus on what they have, not on what they don’t have. It’s motivating to want more in your career, relationships, bank account, etc., but thinking about what you already have, and expressing gratitude for it, will make you feel happy and relaxed.
It will also remind you that even if you have not achieved all your dreams, you have already accomplished a lot and should feel genuinely proud.
3. Take Time to Meditate – rewire your brain for happiness
Meditation is often flaunted as an important habit for improving focus, clarity and attention span, as well as helping to keep you calm.
For Meditation you can sit down, light a candle and do some deep breathing for 10 minutes are all it takes to relax your mind and body.
Studies show that in the minutes right after meditating, we experience feelings of calm and contentment, as well as heightened awareness and empathy. And, research even shows that regular meditation can permanently rewire the brain to raise levels of happiness.
Meditation literally clears your mind and calms you down, it’s been often proven to be the single most effective way to live a happier life. Meditation can make you happier long-term.
4. Foster Good Relationships with Family and Friends
Social time is highly valuable when it comes to improving our happiness, even for loners. There are several studies that have revealed, time spent with friends and family makes a big difference in how happy we feel, generally.
One of the Harvard Happiness expert Daniel Gilbert has explained: We are happy when we have family, we are happy when we have friends and almost all the other things, we think to make us happy are actually just ways of getting more family and friends.
A study published in the Journal of Socio-Economics states than your relationships are worth more than $100,000. However, when compared to the increase in our annual income we are still not as happy as if we increase the strength of our social relationships.
Increasing your number of friends correlates to higher subjective well-being. In fact, doubling your number of friends is like increasing your income by 50 per cent in terms of how happy you feel.
People who don’t spend as much time with family or friends are more prone to loneliness and depression.
Make friends outside of work. Make friends at work. Make friends everywhere. Above all, make real friends. You’ll live a longer and happier life.
5. Help other people as often as you can
While giving is usually considered unselfish, providing social support may be more beneficial than receiving it.
Instinctively, I think we all know that because it feels awesome to help someone who needs it. Not only is helping those in need fulfilling, it’s also a reminder of how comparatively fortunate we are–which is a nice reminder of how thankful we should be for what we already have.
When you give off yourself, either by time or talent, your focus shifts from your life to that of others. This can help you realize that your own problems may not be that bad. You invariably furnace new relationships and experience an uplift in your spirit.
One of the most counterintuitive pieces of advice is that to make yourself feel happier, you should help others. In fact, the dedication of 100 hours per year is the optimal time we should dedicate to helping others in order to enrich our lives.
If we take the recent situation of migrants, labourers and daily wagers who have been facing the brunt of lockdown I am sure most of us would have done our own bit to help them in one or other why either by providing them food to eat or providing them with dry ration so that they can survive themselves in this lockdown period.
This has given everyone the feeling of making us happier by going “against the strong dynamics of self-interest” — the feeling that comes with such selflessness does wonder for the psychological self. And the more we do for others, the more positive the effect, further adding to feelings of happiness.
So overall, It doesn’t sound as difficult as we thought to stay happy. The most important things you can do to be happy is to keep doing what you love to do. This is will not only make help you to excel in that field but also a successful person.
After reading and following the above things, I am hopeful you will be able to raise your happiness quotient and be stressed free and successful in your lives.